flattered or insulted?
November 16, 2009
I recently met a woman who looked exactly like Kate Winslet. Rather than go to the banister, spread my arms and shout “I’m king of the world!” I just waited until late in the conversation and said “I’m sure you get this all the time, but you look exactly like Kate Winslet.”
Sure, that doesn’t exactly make me a great conversationalist, or even mean you’re interested right this second.
But here’s my point–at what point does telling someone they resemble someone famous stop being a compliment and start being simply interesting? And by interesting I probably mean insulting. You know. Like I probably wouldn’t tell you your baby looks like Telly Savalas.
On the other hand, yesterday in church I sat behind a family with a baby, probably ten months old, who looks EXACTLY like Stewie, from the Family Guy. The resemblance was so striking I half expected this baby to start berating me with an English accent.
So, do I tell them “Hey–your baby is the spitting image of Stewie. You know, Stewie? From the Family Guy?”
I mean, if someone told me that my baby looked like Stewie, I’d think that was cool. But I’m not sure Kim would think it was cool.
But it IS cool. Isn’t it?